marriage

Help Meet

Wednesday, April 5, 2017

“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him…. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed” (Genesis 2:18,22-25 KJV).

Behold, the first marriage!

Two close friends in the ministry just celebrated 57 years of marriage. When I asked the man if it felt like it had been that long, he said no. Their wedding seems like only yesterday. For the last 40 years or so, they have been Christians. They credit God’s grace as the reason for their long-lasting union. (Lord willing, they are planning a big celebration for their 60th anniversary!)

Sadly, divorces, once overwhelmingly shunned, are so common in this day and age. People are not getting acquainted enough and rushing into marriage, only to learn “too late” that they did not actually know their spouse as well as they thought! Unwanted pregnancies are often forcing unions (which may eventually dissolve). Husbands are not exercising their God-given role as leader of the marriage relationship. In-laws are not being advised to respect the marriage. Pornography and other illicit issues threaten the union. In short, Satan is weakening society by attacking its basic unit (the family, at the core of which is the marriage)!

There are three passages that deal directly with marriage as it pertains to the Dispensation of Grace—1 Corinthians 7:1-40, Ephesians 5:21-33, and Colossians 3:18-19. It would do Christian couples well to take these verses, study them, and apply them to life by faith. The Creator of marriage Himself wrote these passages, and they are the keys to godly, successful, healthy, long-lasting marriages! 🙂

Mother: A Virtuous Woman

Sunday, May 8, 2016

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies” (Proverbs 31:10 KJV).

Today is Mother’s Day, so we dedicate this devotional to godly women (specifically mothers). I especially dedicate this to the virtuous woman who has been in my life for almost 28 years… my mom!

Today’s Scripture is the first verse of the Bible’s “Virtuous Woman” passage (Proverbs 31:10-31). King Solomon explained that the virtuous woman:

  • has a husband who safely trusts in her (verses 11,12).
  • is not lazy, but is strong because she works to feed and clothe her family and herself (verses 13-19,21,22,24,25,27).
  • pities the poor and needy (verse 20).
  • has a husband who is well-known because of her godly lifestyle (verse 23).
  • opens her mouth with wisdom, and speaks kindly and lovingly (verse 26).
  • has children and a husband who praise her (verse 28).
  • excels in what she does (verse 29).
  • has works that praise her (verse 31).

Verse 30 explains the virtuous woman is “a woman that feareth the LORD.”

The Apostle Paul wrote that godly women should: not slander/gossip, not be controlled by alcohol and emotions (sober minded), be teachers of good things, love their husbands and children, be cautious and modest, maintain the home, be “good,” and should obey (respect) their husbands… “that the word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:3-5). A Christian woman, especially a mother, should be a virtuous woman in beliefs as well as in deed. She needs to set an example for her children (especially her daughters).

A Christian woman and/or Christian mother places her faith in this sound Bible doctrine, the indwelling Holy Spirit will then take that doctrine and transform her for God’s glory (1 Thessalonians 2:13). Her mind will be renewed by sound Bible doctrine, and that will transform her outward activity (Romans 12:1,2).

Are you a Christian woman or Christian mother who desires to be the woman God intends you to be in Christ Jesus? Place your faith in this sound Bible doctrine, and God will take care of the rest!

 HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO OUR READERS WHO ARE MOTHERS!

*Adapted from a larger Bible study with the same name. The Bible study can be read here or watched here.

Nude Human Artwork?

Tuesday, April 12, 2016

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4 KJV).

In this world of people becoming more and more confused about human sexuality, today’s Scripture is a ray of light!

Recently, I watched a video of a liberal arts “professor” defending “nude human artwork.” She, like any lost person, reasoned, “There is nothing wrong with the ‘raw’ human body. This is not ‘obscenity’ but rather ‘art.’” Another person agreed, “I think it would be disrespectful not to allow it and it would be disrespectful not to let others express themselves.” (Of course, these two were being interviewed fully clothed! And, I wonder if we used their logic and told them, “Let us display medieval torture devices… they are wonderful works of art that express their makers’ creativity!”) Alas, let them alone. They are just a few more people confused about sexual matters.

No question about it. Adam and Eve wore no physical clothing during the first days of creation. The Bible says, “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed” (Genesis 2:25). However, after sin entered, “they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons” (Genesis 3:7). Adam was so ashamed of his nakedness that he literally hid when he heard God approaching (verse 10). Finally, God “made coats of skins, and clothed them” (verse 21).

Certainly, originally, there was nothing sinful about a naked human body. But, something happened to the human body in Genesis chapter 3—man’s fall into sin. That entrance of sin drastically altered the human body’s appearance. Once clothed by God’s light (righteousness), it now needs physical covering. When we read about the Gadarene possessed by thousands of evil spirits, he “ware no clothes” (Luke 8:27). However, once Jesus healed him, the man, “in his right mind,” put on clothes (verse 35)!

God is the Master Creator. The human body is indeed a work of art. But, may it be enjoyed in the “undefiled” “marriage bed” (today’s Scripture). Anything else—including nude “art”—is just incentive for lust… and worse, including harlotry and adultery. Cover it up… and the art, too!

The Wise King Turned Foolish

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

“Then did Solomon build an high place for Chemosh, the abomination of Moab, in the hill that is before Jerusalem, and for Molech, the abomination of the children of Ammon. And likewise did he for all his strange wives, which burnt incense and sacrificed unto their gods. And the LORD was angry with Solomon, because his heart was turned from the LORD God of Israel, which had appeared unto him twice, And had commanded him concerning this thing, that he should not go after other gods: but he kept not that which the LORD commanded” (1 Kings 11:7-10 KJV).

Why did Solomon write about the “virtuous” woman but still let foreign women destroy him?

This intriguing question was recently submitted to me. It takes quite a bit of study but there is an answer in Scripture.

The Bible says that God imparted to King Solomon such wisdom that no other king—in Israel or outside of Israel—has ever come close or will ever come close to it (1 Kings 4:29-34). Every nation under heaven had heard of her king’s wisdom. Gentiles would come from afar to hear Solomon in person and donate gifts to him (2 Chronicles 9:22-24). Every Jew feared Solomon, knowing good and well he had God’s wisdom in him (1 Kings 3:28). Scripture says that Solomon spoke 3,000 proverbs and wrote 1,005 songs. The Holy Spirit used Solomon to write our Bible books of Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, and Song of Solomon.

As the years passed, young Solomon aged, slowly being corrupted. Halfway through his 40-year reign, his spiritual life took a drastic turn for the worse. We read about it in today’s Scripture. How could Israel’s wisest king suddenly wind up so far removed from the truth? The Bible says it was his “strange” wives. Overall, Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines (servant-wives) (1 Kings 11:3)!! All those women had a relationship with pagan idols. By extension, Solomon, in order to please all those women, had a relationship with all their false gods and goddesses. The Christian would do well to learn from Solomon’s mistake. Do not get romantically involved with any lost person. Period!

For more information, see our latest Bible Q&A: “How could ‘wise’ King Solomon let foreign women deceive him?

Paul and Dispensationalism #12

Wednesday, August 19, 2015

“Brethren, be ye followers together of me, and mark them which walk so as ye have us for an ensample” (Philippians 3:17 KJV).

What else can the Apostle Paul teach us about dispensational Bible study?

Many earnest Christians say, “I do not follow man. I go by what Jesus said.” Bless their dear hearts—they follow the traditions of men by following Jesus’ words to Jews. Jesus Himself said He was not God’s spokesman to us Gentiles: “I am not sent but unto the lost sheep of the house of Israel” (Matthew 15:24). Are you a lost sheep of the house of Israel? Then, Jesus’ earthly ministry does not apply to you (2 Corinthians 5:16)!

Paul is our apostle (Romans 11:13) whereas Jesus Christ is Israel’s Apostle (Hebrews 3:1). It thoroughly astonishes Bible readers to learn that the Apostle Paul is the person we should follow, not Jesus in His earthly ministry. Jesus never said we Gentiles need to follow Him. However, we do find Jesus Christ speaking through Paul and instructing us to follow Paul as he follows Jesus Christ. “Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ” (1 Corinthians 11:1). “Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you” (Philippians 4:9).

Friend, if you do not know where to go in the Bible to retrieve God’s Word to and about you, you have no hope in ever understanding the Bible. You will not know the baptism valid for you; you will not know how to handle sickness; you will not have a clear Gospel message to believe; you will not know how to pray; you will not know how God’s Spirit works in you today as a believer; you will not know how to function as a spouse, child, student, parent, boss, employee, pastor, teacher, neighbor, citizen; and so on.

You cannot find victorious Christian living in the Old Testament, the Four Gospels, the early part of Acts, or Hebrews through Revelation. If you want victorious Christian living, you must go to the Holy Spirit’s instructions found in Paul’s 13 epistles, Romans through Philemon. This is the key to Christianity’s doctrinal dilemma!

Mother: A Virtuous Woman

Sunday, May 10, 2015

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies” (Proverbs 31:10 KJV).

Today is Mother’s Day, so we dedicate this devotional to godly women (specifically mothers). I especially dedicate this to the virtuous woman who has been in my life for almost 27 years… my mom!

Today’s Scripture is the first verse of the Bible’s “Virtuous Woman” passage (Proverbs 31:10-31). King Solomon explained that the virtuous woman:

  • has a husband who safely trusts in her (verses 11,12).
  • is not lazy, but is strong because she works to feed and clothe her family and herself (verses 13-19,21,22,24,25,27).
  • pities the poor and needy (verse 20).
  • has a husband who is well-known because of her godly lifestyle (verse 23).
  • opens her mouth with wisdom, and speaks kindly and lovingly (verse 26).
  • has children and a husband who praise her (verse 28).
  • excels in what she does (verse 29).
  • has works that praise her (verse 31).

Verse 30 explains the virtuous woman is “a woman that feareth the LORD.”

The Apostle Paul wrote that godly women should: not slander/gossip, not be controlled by alcohol and emotions (sober minded), be teachers of good things, love their husbands and children, be cautious and modest, maintain the home, be “good,” and should obey (respect) their husbands… “that the word of God be not blasphemed” (Titus 2:3-5). A Christian woman, especially a mother, should be a virtuous woman in beliefs as well as in deed. She needs to set an example for her children (especially her daughters).

A Christian woman and/or Christian mother places her faith in this sound Bible doctrine, the indwelling Holy Spirit will then take that doctrine and transform her for God’s glory (1 Thessalonians 2:13). Her mind will be renewed by sound Bible doctrine, and that will transform her outward activity (Romans 12:1,2).

Are you a Christian woman or Christian mother who desires to be the woman God intends you to be in Christ Jesus? Place your faith in this sound Bible doctrine, and God will take care of the rest!

 HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO OUR READERS WHO ARE MOTHERS!

*Adapted from a larger Bible study with the same name. The Bible study can be read here or watched here.

1 + 1 = 1

Saturday, September 20, 2014

“For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh” (Ephesians 5:31 KJV).

On this day, my family and I invite you to join us in the celebration of two lives beginning as one brand-new life!

Today, my family will gain a new member, and I a new sister-in-law. My eldest brother, Isral, will marry his fiancée, Jivka (they will read this later). We wish them well on this their wedding day, when they join hands in holy matrimony and take lifelong vows before their Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.

They will no longer have two identities, but one identity; the context of today’s Scripture is how we Christians and Christ share one identity: “For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones” (verse 30). My dear brother must now leave father and mother, to now cleave to Jivka. She must now come under his protection and guidance, as we have done in relation to Jesus Christ (verses 22-24). He must love her as Christ loves us (verse 25). They have a brand-new life together, and how we joy in Jesus Christ with them!

Marriage can be the happiest life event or it can literally be a worst nightmare—either extreme depends on what extent the Lord Jesus Christ is allowed to live in the lives of both spouses. Jesus Christ is fully compatible with Himself, so when two Christians join together in marriage and have issues, it is not Jesus Christ’s fault. Either the husband, the wife, or both, are not living the grace life—Jesus Christ’s doctrine regarding marriage (1 Corinthians chapter 7; Ephesians 5:18-33; Colossians 3:16-19) is not being applied by faith.

In this day and age, marriage vows are often taken very lightly. Sometimes, unfortunately, they are not taken at all. Beloved, no marriage is perfect, but when Christian couples apply by faith the marriage doctrines of grace as found in the words of the Holy Ghost through the Apostle Paul, their new life will literally be the life of Jesus Christ on display for all to see 1 + 1 = 1. 🙂

Our latest Bible Q&A: “Who is ‘the Bride of Christ?’